Jodi Wellman on LinkedIn: Want More Life? Get a Friend. | 10 comments (2024)

"How People Matter." It's a two-part definition: feeling valued and adding value.»It was a little over two years ago during a meeting when Gunn introduced the term of "mattering" into my life. I vividly recall going home after the meeting, eager to learn more about it. Being the curious person that I am, I searched the internet to gain a deeper understanding of what this truly meant.After several hours of research, it finally clicked for me, and I thought, "This is the meaning of life." That's when I made a decision to use my most valuable asset, my time, in a way that aligns with the concept of "mattering."I've become so conscious of "Mattering" that I've developed an internal compass mechanism, often filtering my decisions through two questions:1. Do I feel valued?2. Am I adding value here?If the answer is no to either of these questions, I move on. It's easier said than done because we still live in a world that, in theory, aims to create space for people to flourish, but in practice, we have many more years of understanding and training ahead of us.Nevertheless, I dream and believe that it is possible to create a world where every individual can experience "mattering" in their lives. 🫶🏻

5

Science has the antidote, particularly for how you can revitalize your relationship with work based on your individual work style. You’ll also discover how to make any job more meaningful, according to research in positive psychology.

Science has the antidote, particularly for how you can revitalize your relationship with work based on your individual work style. You’ll also discover how to make any job more meaningful, according to research in positive psychology.

Science has the antidote, particularly for how you can revitalize your relationship with work based on your individual work style. You’ll also discover how to make any job more meaningful, according to research in positive psychology.

Science has the antidote, particularly for how you can revitalize your relationship with work based on your individual work style. You’ll also discover how to make any job more meaningful, according to research in positive psychology.

The importance of mattering is getting increased attention in the media.Mattering is one's sense of making a difference in the world by adding value and feeling valued. Adding value means being efficacious, important, and making a contribution to others.Feeling valued refers to being connected to, appreciated, and respected by others.Mattering is positively related to important constructs such as well-being, meaning, and performance and negatively related to burnout, depression, and anxiety.You can increase other people's mattering by noticing them, showing them interest, and devoting your time to them.You can enhance your sense of mattering by using your strengths to contribute to others. You could do that by crafting your life and work in such a way you have opportunities to use your skills, strengths, and abilities to bring value to other people.Mattering is a universal psychological need. Life matters more when it matters more to other people.

19

2 Comments

Following my last post about being on a job I find fun and exciting, let me explain.Recently I fell in love with psychology, even more than I ever found it fascinating before. One of the reasons I have come to love psychology is because it deals with people. As an L&D professional, of course it makes sense that this would intrigue me. The grand opening into psychology was the theory of motivation, found in a book written a long time ago (but recently republished and made available online) by Herzberg, Mausner and Syderman, and no, this is not a self-help book 😅. It is titled The Motivation to Work.It was written a long time ago, but it has since formed as one of the strong foundations in the study of why people may or may not enjoy the work they do. This is where the fun begins for me because, according to the book and shockingly too, when people are not motivated to work it does not mean they are demotivated, it just simply means they are not motivated.Motivation and Demotivation as dimensions to job satisfaction and dissatisfaction respectively, exist on perpendicular planes, not along the same line. Therefore the factors that make people enjoy their jobs can in fact and do exist some times simultaneously with factors that make them hate their job. In the end, it's all a question of balance. But when the motivators are juiced up and the demotivators have no (for lack of a better word) "pull", the job indeed becomes fun and exciting. The other 3 quadrants involve misery, hard but fulfilling work and comfortable but unfulfilling work as well.What are your reasons for work? You may be surprised that you are working for the wrong reasons.I think this post is long enough now. 😅Have a lovely evening. 😊

4

I hadn't heard of "mattering" before I saw this article in the NY Times. I'm posting this article here because I have a "people first" mentality and we all can benefit from more life satisfaction and less stress!"Research suggests that people who feel like they matter experience more self-compassion, relationship satisfaction, and greater belief in their capacity to achieve their goals, while lack of mattering is associated with burnout, self-criticism, anxiety, depression, aggression and increased risk of suicide."This article is worth reading, but at a high level....How to increase your sense of mattering- Identify your strengths- Assess your work life- Adjust your relationships- Volunteer your time- Express grievances and practice self-compassion

13

Do you who Martin Seligman is??? 😲 He is an accomplished psychologist who went from researching depression to looking into happiness and flourishing 💙 He is well-known for his efforts in founding the field of positive psychology 🧘♀️ If we ask Seligman, after more than 30 years of research, to tell us how flourishing looks like, he will describe someone with these 5 key elements ⚡ (1) Positive Emotions: “I feel joy, happiness, hope, and gratitude in my daily life.” (2) Engagement: “I usually feel engaged with the task in front of me.” (3) Relationships: “I have healthy and authentic social connections.” (4) Meaning: “I think my work has a significant impact on our society.” (5) Accomplishments: “I feel I am really good at my job.” It’s important to remember that each of us is different from one another. There is a difference between how much we need each element based on our individual met and unmet needs 💎 👉 What do you think? Agree or Disagree?

10

10 things you should always keep to yourself at work, according to psychologyhttps://lnkd.in/dii4ym7G

1